Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Feeling Homesick

Bear with me for a minute . . . I am feeling sorry for myself. We didn't know that when we moved from Hamer to Othello that we were moving into such a wonderful place. We had heard how great the people in Washington were but doesn't everyone say that about where they are from? I am here to tell you that it is very much the truth. Our ward was AWESOME! They are true examples of how we should be as members of the church--kind, welcoming, service oriented, spiritual, etc. We attended church while house hunting (months before moving) and knew that we were in the right place. Everyone made us feel right at home. For the two years that we were apart of the Othello 1st ward we had the pleasure to be surrounded by great members of the Church. They taught us to be more selfless, loving, missionary minded, etc by their examples to us. When the move to Idaho was brought up our first thoughts were "We love it here. We love the people. We don't want to leave." Leaving was terribly hard. We have such great friends in Othello. We had the hope that we would have a similar experience with our new ward. And thankfully we did. The ward that we attended while in our rental house was excited to have a new family and welcomed us with open arms. Then we found our home in Paul which meant another ward, another stake. We looked forward to settling into our new ward and making friends. Granted it has only been a month and a half but we feel very much alone. Nobody smiles at us let alone says hi. The ward is made up of a lot of families that have been here for years (very much like Othello), and they seem to keep to their own families and don't welcome newbies in. Now I know that we need to make an effort as well, which is why we will be choosing a random family to invite over for dessert on Sunday. But it sure would be nice to be welcomed in. Matt and I left church Sunday feeling very sad. We wish we hadn't left Washington. Don't get me wrong . . . we love being closer to family, the financial securtiy that moving has given us is great especially during these tough economic times, and the more rounded education our boys are getting, but we have to wonder if it is truly worth it. We have talked about waiting the year we are required to be here and then finding a position back in Othello. I never would have thought that Washington would be my "home" but I have to admit that I truly felt at HOME there.

Matt is having a similar experience with work. He enjoyed the people that he worked with. Everyone got along (for the most part) and respected him and his opinion. He liked going to work. Here it is the opposite story. There is so much contention at work, nobydy listens to what he has to say. He dreads going to work everyday. It makes me sad to see him not enjoying his job.

Ok, I gues it is time to stop feeling sorry for ourselves, I just needed to write my feelings down. I do want to say to all our friends in Washington thank you for your examples, your kindness and friendship. We are truly better people by being surrounded by you. Friends are truly a gift! You are AWESOME and we miss you tons!

9 comments:

Colleen said...

that is so hard. i wish i knew what to say to make it better for you. laura and i waved at the turn off sign for paul on our way home to boise at christmas. next time we will honk, even though you wont hear it. we think of you often.

Anonymous said...

I know how you feel. We have been there also, and it was like pulling teeth to get Tony to go to church because he had no friends there. It's no fun feeling like you are not a part of the "ward family". But I know you will keep in mind that this is a stepping stone, and something good will come of it. I hope you can eventually find friends and welcoming people where you are, to make your stay in Paul easier. You are in my thoughts often. Take care.....

Unknown said...

Janae...I'm sorry to hear how horrible they are being to you in Paul...where ever that is. You can move to Hamer again. We would love to have you back. Tell Matt it would only be a little bit of a drive! :-) Just kidding. I know how you feel. When Andy and I lived in Idaho Falls when we were first married it was the same way. People were not very nice. We were asked like five times to stand up and introduce ourselves because they kept thinking we were new. We hated it so bad we moved back to Hamer and have been there ever since. However, I do agree that if people don't make the effort, you might have to. I know what wonderful personalities you and Matt have and I bet you get it figured out soon. Good luck!

Kristie

Jeanette Roylance said...

We miss you too! I can't say that I'm sorry that you miss us, but I hate to think that you're not loving it there too. You know that we would always LOVE to have you back here even though another move would NOT be fun. I'm sorry that we missed you at Christmas. We would have loved to visit. Come and see us some time. I was at scouts for the 1st time today since I had Hazel and I missed seeing you there. Reach out to others and INSPIRE THEM to reach out to you with your wonderful family! Think happy thoughts! And know that we love you guys!
Jeanette
PS. It was fun to see the great pictures!

Boise Mom said...

You wrote the answer to the problem in your own words...
Now, just do it. Invite, open YOUR arms, your home, your heart and make others happy and feel loved.

You will do great in Paul. Just let
the good people in the Othello ward be your example. Maybe that is why each move happened as it did. 1st - Othello to learn from some of the best and 2nd to go to another area to help them learn how to be their best.

Becky said...

Oh...you took the words right out of my mouth! Except, Brent only has his secretary to deal with and she is easy to get along with. It has taken some time getting used to the ward here. Sometimes I wonder if moving would have been easier had we not have spent time with the great people in Othello. Those darn Othello-ites! Just kidding...I actually miss the friends we had in Othello very much. And to be honest...when people tell you it will get better and hang tough...it really doesn't make you feel any better...even though they are right. I guess we can just be grateful to know a bunch of really great people who live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, Othello WA and try and keep in touch with them through the years! Love you guys!

Jeff and Amy said...

We are sad to hear that! We have found that small towns are either super inviting or super closed off! Luckily our ward is the very inviting kind- Jeff says you can move to Middleton since people are nice here! We miss you guys and hope things brighten up a little! Love you!

Todd Ashton Family said...

We miss you guys too. You are great friends!! We are kind of spoiled to have been able to stay in this ward for so long (and no plans to change that anytime soon!). I'm sure that it will get better as the people in your ward realize what a great asset you both are. Hang in there!

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